Posted by Kirsty M.
It’s 2.42am (Denver time) and I Can. Not. Sleep!
It seems to have kicked in a full day after I’ve got here! I’m so energised about our Conference next week and of course I may be a little excited about heading out to Rachel & Shane Krider’s residence tomorrow for a few days of pre-event “fun”!
All excitement aside, I’ve been listening to the audios of our last Influence Live Conference (Europe, 2013) and one particular topic has really struck a chord with me right now. Shane speaks about creating a “feeling” in life. If something affects us in a negative way, we want to feel better. If we feel alone or lost we want to feel comforted. If we’re feeling flat or bored, we want to feel thrill or excitement. We want to get that “good feeling” in life, after all it is better to “feel good” than to “feel bad” isn’t it? However the way we go about getting that feeling can become the problem.
Shane points out that we can get this feeling in one of two ways – it is either by “Consuming” something or by “Creating” something.
If you choose to Create something, you become the source for it & the feeling never wears off, it’s not just a quick “fix”.
Where as if you “Consume” something (eg. Eat a block of chocolate, down a bottle of wine, or indulge in impulse purchases etc), it is a quick fix, it never lasts, it often leaves you feeling worse than you did in the first place, and you are never able to really take control of the feeling in a good way. I believe this is how and where addictions start, in my experience (and yes I have overcome an addiction) there is the quick fix for sure, it feels good, you return to it over and over again, until the point that you’re seeking that quick fix as a “preventative” just in case you get that “bad feeling” back again, but there is always, ALWAYS, an underlying message within yourself that this is not the right option, and long term, the end result can be catastrophic.
So how do we opt for the “Create” rather than the “Consume”? For me, it’s by finding personal challenges that I know I can win with, because that makes me feel awesome. It may be something as simple as setting a timer for how quickly I can clean up the kids playroom & have it looking perfect (I’m a neat freak), or how many people in a day I can pay it forward to, or how many loose ends I can tie up in a 10 minute task. By creating that feeling of winning, I remove that bad feeling & I am creating something positive that has a direct impact on my life. I am back at cause again, not at the effect.
I’d love to hear how you have been able to turn this around in your life, going from “Consuming” to “Creating”.