Posted by Debbie A.
I wanted to share with people, the path that led me to explore the options of running my own Home Business of Design A Dream Life with Polaris Global. I am sure my friends thought I had gone mad. I left a great job; largely because of Lessons 1 & 2…I even left a great country! I’m in New Zealand now, designing my own dream life. Yes…it’s risky, some people would say crazy. But let’s see who is going to have the most fun in the next 12 months!
Throughout time, it is funny how subliminal messages are delivered to you during your life. It is entirely up to you as whether you listen to those messages and take heed. It is a well- documented fact that 80% of people are happy being “comfortable”…no risks, no excitement, no changes…yet quietly and secretly living in a state of quiet desperation. Same life…day in, day out. Is that really a life?
I was living in Cairns, Tropical Far North Queensland in Australia. I lived beneath this iconic mountain; in fact, it is called Walsh’s Pyramid for obvious reasons. For 30 years I gazed at this mountain, declaring that getting to the top of that mountain would definitely be on my Bucket List! Everyone else seemed to be doing it. Problem was, I worked in real estate sales, 7 days a week. Ate, slept and breathed it. I was good at it, I LOVED IT…I was hooked. But it left absolutely no time to climb mountains, let alone have a normal life!
My second son, Sam, was home for a week from his job in Europe. Sam was only 24, I was 50. I mentioned to him, my goal of climbing this mountain. Sam is ever the enthusiastic type! He was keen to climb with me. Without going into all the details, this mountain is one of those climbs that makes your heart beat extremely loudly inside your temples as you make your way up in altitude! No matter how fit you are; you still breath deep, gasp for air and your muscles fair burn. It requires agility and stamina to successfully scale up steep rock embankments and a narrow winding beaten track to the top, especially in the humidity of the tropics.
To finally make it up above the clouds was an absolute thrill! Views for miles on a perfect day…how exciting and exhilarating to complete one of your life goals! After “yahoos”, hugs and selfies, we sat down on this huge big flat rock to just stare in wonder and contemplate…well…life!
Full of beans, our run to the base of the mountain was, of course, very quick…it was steep, but downhill all the way. You just had to be cautious of damaging ankles and knee joints! As we flew down, we passed the usual tourists trying to scale up. The Asian tourists in their beautiful neat clothes, little black shoes and lacy socks daintily, hand-over-hand, systematically climbing. The young kids, who skip along weightlessly clambering to the top. The fitness freaks with sinewy muscles and sweat pouring off them; training for the next big mountain race. Then we came across this couple, obviously locals and probably in their early 60’s. The lady was crying; she was so distraught. I stopped to ask if she was okay. She looked up and simply sobbed; “My husband and I have been driving in our car past this mountain for the last 40 years; we always wanted to climb it! Now we are nearly half way, I have just realised, we have left it too late. I cannot go any further. I cannot make it to the top of the mountain and I never will.”
I have thought about that poor couple nearly every day since then. I don’t know why; but they won’t go away. At the time, I felt gutted for them, but if anything came good of it, it gave me a great lesson in life. I wish I could meet up with them again and thank them for the great gift they gave me. I do hope they got at least something out of the lesson too.
A few months later, a great Face Book lesson appeared on my phone (as they do!). The Top 5 Regrets of The Dying, written by a lady called Bonnie Ware.
Bonnie is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She put her observations into this book. Bonnie writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. “When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently,” she says, “common themes surfaced again and again.”
So good were these wise words, I handwrote them out in my messy writing while at another boring, hot Open Home!
1. I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. Honour your dreams while you are young enough to do so.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard – don’t get stuck in the treadmill of a work existence.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings
4. I wish I’d stayed in touch with my friends. Give your friends the time and effort they deserve (don’t work so hard!)
5. I wish I had let myself be happier. Happiness is a choice. Let go and smile
This was the second conscious lesson I really wanted everyone, especially my children, to absorb and remember: Bonnie made the poignant statement, “We only have a limited time to live the life we chose ourselves” How true….
Working in real estate was always interesting, in particular, the special people that you met. As I have gotten older and wiser, I have made a conscious effort to really listen to the stories of the past; there truly are lessons in every conversation, especially from those much older and wiser than yourself!
This past St Patricks Day, I found myself, at our local pub (oops!), sitting beside a wonderful old man who used to be a good friend of my late father. His name is Bill Brown. Now Bills had a bit of a hard time with his health lately, but he is spritely, his eyes shine and when he smiles, he smiles from his heart and his face shows a life very well lived to this point. I caught him singing along with the band that was playing; he still has a wonderful singing voice; I bet he broke all the ladies hearts in his youth! After a bit of a chat about his life, (he and his wife, Noelene, used to sail the oceans on their yacht, they ran a farm and they were off to pick up a motor home to continue on a new adventure) I asked old Bill if he had any regrets in his life so far. “No, I don’t have any regrets at all…oh hold on; I wish I’d had a bigger farm!” To which his wife sitting beside him, thumped him in the arm and said “No! We did not need a bigger farm Bill!”
This man has lived his life to the full! No regrets? I LOVE THAT!
I get many lessons in life delivered to me. I am now 52; I hope to get a few more! Working through the lessons that my new business with Polaris Global is delivering, had made me so much more aware of what is going on around me. DEPARTURE from my past life into the new has proven to be one of the very best decisions of my life. More on that in another Blog! I hope the 3 Lessons mentioned on this page will resonate with many of you and encourage you to start making some major decisions about where you are heading in your own life. I personally have a deep desire to leave my children with the legacy of adventure!
What is your greatest regret so far and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?